To quit smoking successfully, you must be able to see your future self being free from smoking rather than looking backwards and feeling somehow deprived. Your ability to stop smoking is inside you but your desire to stop smoking must be stronger than the need to continue smoking.
Consciously deciding to stop smoking does not work. Your conscious mind does not make any decision, it is a security guard for your subconscious. The real power, the controller of your actions lies behind the security guard in the subconscious mind. This is how our habits and body language tell the real story of how we feel, not our words. Our words are coming from the conscious mind.
Your subconscious mind helped you to learn how to smoke in the first place and it is reasonable to assume that only your subconscious habit can make the change for you to quit smoking. When you learned how to smoke – remember no-one took to smoking immediately but it was important to learn either to fit in with your friends or to rebel. Unfortunately, as you have matured (hopefully!), the smoker part remains the same and will not change unless you can give it good reason to. This is why no-one can make you stop smoking, you cannot be forced and sometimes if you feel badgered into stopping smoking, your internal rebel will sabotage your efforts as it is really in charge of you.
This is the same process in deciding “I’m not going to smoke today” – straight away you feel the need, the desire to smoke a cigarette, you put yourself near smokers to smell the cigarettes. Why? Two things are happening – “not” is cancelled out by your mind as your mind does not recognise a negative in self talk and you feel deprived as your focus is on what you feel you are missing out on! You are being controlled by your smoker self.
Let’s face it, you are no longer a child, if you want to stop smoking you can and hypnosis gives you the extra edge. Hypnosis is a relaxation in itself and allows your entire system to settle down and be calm so that you are able to deal with situations in your life more effectively. Why is this important? Because this special relaxation is the key to access your subconscious mind. You may think of smoking as being like a friend but it is bad company, sending you down a road of ill health, it is an enemy in disguise.
Picture this: your child (if you are parent) hangs around with a smelly friend. This friend acts as though it is all your child needs, it creates isolation. Your child no longer has to take responsibility. In fact your child continuously to give money and attention to this “friend”. If you take your child out socially, their focus is on how their “friend” is going to fit in.
What do you want to do? You want to stop this “friend” controlling your child.
This is the relationship you have with cigarettes. Your life revolves on where and how you can smoke, it gives you a chance to rebel but who are affecting – only you.
Smoking gives you nothing but smelly breath, smelly clothes, makes you car smell. Even you do not smoke in your home, you know where the cigarettes ashes and butts are. You leave your mark. You know it is socially becoming more and more unacceptable to smoke and no matter how nicely presented you are, you are demonstrating that you really don’t think much of yourself or others by continuing to smoke. There is no such thing as a conscientious smoker.
In the background of a smoker, there is usually a stress management that needs to be addressed, confidence building and some self improvement tools should be offered by your hypnotherapist to help you. There is nothing sophisticated, debonair or cool about smoking. If you want to stop smoking but don’t feel you have the inner resources to be successful, then hypnotherapy can offer that boost.
When the smoke finally clears from your eyes (figuratively and literally), you will see cigarettes for what they really were – a pacifier, controlling you. Isn’t it time you took control of what goes on inside you!